A skill that becomes more important each and every day
“Why is it so important to live in the moment?” That was the one question I was asking myself, when I saw another one of those super fancy quotes, somewhere on the internet. I believe it was from some spiritual teacher.
Every spiritual teacher seems to stress the importance of living in the moment. Actually, athletes also say it, all the time. To get into that “flow” you have to live in the moment, and focus only on the play at hand.
I very much agree with this. In my humble opinion, to live in the moment is one of the most important skills you can have as a human being. In all honesty, your life would be so much better if you were only living in the present moment.
You would not have to worry about this or that meeting in the future, or what he or she has said to you yesterday, since it doesn’t really matter in this exact moment.
This might be a bold statement, but I think that one of the roots of all problems in this world comes from not being present, and thus not living in the moment. When all we do is live in the future or staying stuck in the past, we only cause the problem of overthinking.
Thinking too much unimportant stuff, I mean with that, even though it might seem of the utmost importance. With unimportant I mean not necessary for this exact moment or situation. The big question, of course: How to solve this? How can we start to live in the moment more?
To live in the moment, but how?
Life is lived in this moment, and this moment only. Not tomorrow, or the day after, not even yesterday. Right here and right now. And right now, the biggest thing we need is love.
Love, joy, compassion, and happiness. Nothing more. It is not hard to find those things, you just have to look inside and accept what is there and move on.
However, that in itself is the hardest thing to do. It means we have to relax, and let go. Let go of all the old hurt and pain that has happened to us. Of all the hate and worry in our hearts. We have to let go of our own self-image. Read more about how to let go here.
There is only one way to do this, to embrace the moment, let go, and accept. Focus on living in this moment, and this moment only. For that, you have to be silent, you have to realize that you are not your mind, that it is just a part of a whole that is called your body.
When this silence starts to sneak into your life, you will realize that you have been taking everything too damn serious! You will realize that life is just a game, and that you only have to play it. Enjoy! Be playful! Have fun! Like Osho said:
“Just look at life with more playful eyes. Don’t be serious. Seriousness becomes like a blindness. Don’t pretend to be a thinker, a philosopher. Just simply be a human being. The whole world is showering its joy on you in so many ways, but you are too serious, you cannot open your heart.”
The sun will rise
Once we, as humans, start realizing this, all the pain and suffering will disappear in the end. Once we all start living in the moment, problems will start to solve themselves. Is it going to be always fun and easy? No, of course not! But when you have found that love, joy, compassion, and happiness in your life, you will realize that life is all about seasons.
The night is always followed by the day. Sunshine always follows after the rain. And some storms will be fiercer and harder than others, but in the end, they will pass. The night is always darkest just before the sun rises.
How to live in the moment right now? 4 practical tips
I understand that what I have written down about living in the moment might sound very abstract and vague to you. That is why I also want to give you some practical tips that will help you to live more in this present moment. I have listed them below, so that you can see them clearly.
- Focus on your breath
One of the first and easiest things you can start doing right now, is to follow your own breath. No need to force any kind of rhythm, just follow your breath. Try to keep a count in your head (it doesn’t matter how you count!!), and see how high you can get without losing count. Do this a couple of times per day, each time trying to maintain your focus.
You will notice that, as you get better in just following your breath, you will start to return more and more to the now, you will start to live in the moment. Your mind will quiet down a little bit, and you will find that you have more and more love to give to the world.
If focusing on the breath is too hard for you right now, start meditating. It can be any kind of meditation, just look up something on YouTube. Or do some active meditation, like tai-chi or qi-gong. Maybe you like to just sit still and be quiet. It doesn’t matter! Try to meditate every day, it will work wonders for you, I guarantee you. The longer you do it, the more you will be able to become present and live in the moment.
- Write your thoughts down
In order to quiet your mind, so that you can become more present, try to empty your head by simply taking a piece of paper and start writing. Write down whatever comes to your mind, get it out and onto the paper! Keep writing until there is absolutely nothing left, and even then, continue for a couple more minutes!
After you are done, you might burn the paper, as to symbolically remove all the thoughts from this moment. You will find yourself with a lovely quiet head after you have done this. You will find yourself ready to live in this moment!
- Drop the importance and become an observer
A great way to become an observer to life in general, and to start living in the moment, is to drop the importance of all that you have around you. It is because of the importance we give to things, events and situations, that we start to overthink a lot of stuff. There is no need for this!
Try to look at a situation from all different sides and see what would be the worst possible outcome. More often than not, you will find that nothing really awful will happen. This means that you can mentally take a step back and truly observe the situation.
If you have managed to do this for yourself, and have dropped the importance of all the things, events and situations around you, congratulations! You have just succeeded to live in the present moment! Without any attachments, we cannot do otherwise than be present, and live in the moment.
My last piece of advice: Have faith, have patience. But above all, feel the love!